it was announced yesterday that the place brendan works is closing in september and laying everyone off. good thing b was already planning on quiting in august!!!! the timing really worked out perfectly for him, and this also answers the question of whether or not he should try to stay on part-time in the fall - big ole no. i feel excited about this change and that it will open new possibilities for him (instead of just going back there again next summer). together we're going to figure out stepping stones towards the future goal of him finding work in the area of social services. there's a few student positions posted online at the moment at homebased housing which would be perfect for next summer (it's for 2nd year students), so he can try to position himself for one of those jobs next summer by possibly volunteering there and developing connections. i feel that volunteering is an important part of finding a job. i volunteered at a local newspaper for about six months which lead to me landing a job at another newspaper, then later i land my current job. volunteering kept me current, gave me on the job practice, and beefed up my resume. it will be interesting to see how the next few years unfold for brendan. it's exciting!
i've been doing some reading online about personality types, and have discovered that being relationship-oriented or task-oriented affects our temperment just as much as being introverted or extroverted. another light bulb in my head has clicked on. sometimes i feels like learning and understanding is like opening one door after another (kind of like the 'get smart' intro).
we went to a potluck downstairs last night with brendan's highschool friends. it's a totally different culture to what i've grown accustomed to. they're a bunch of young, single, students/recent grads, still very green with no inkling about what their futures will be like. i used to find it hard to be around them because of the sheer lack of life experience, but it's getting better. i complained to brendan beforehand that they don't really talk to me, and he said that it's probably because i'm much older than them and they don't understand why he married a 30 something. they don't know people in their 30s much less hangout with them. it went a bit better. i think they're starting to get to know me and are discovering that i've done some interesting things with my 9 extra years. it can be tricky socially having a wide age gap, but i basically add our ages and divide the difference. we're collectively 26.5 years old. still older than his peers, but not nearly as foreign to them.
i've been doing some reading online about personality types, and have discovered that being relationship-oriented or task-oriented affects our temperment just as much as being introverted or extroverted. another light bulb in my head has clicked on. sometimes i feels like learning and understanding is like opening one door after another (kind of like the 'get smart' intro).
we went to a potluck downstairs last night with brendan's highschool friends. it's a totally different culture to what i've grown accustomed to. they're a bunch of young, single, students/recent grads, still very green with no inkling about what their futures will be like. i used to find it hard to be around them because of the sheer lack of life experience, but it's getting better. i complained to brendan beforehand that they don't really talk to me, and he said that it's probably because i'm much older than them and they don't understand why he married a 30 something. they don't know people in their 30s much less hangout with them. it went a bit better. i think they're starting to get to know me and are discovering that i've done some interesting things with my 9 extra years. it can be tricky socially having a wide age gap, but i basically add our ages and divide the difference. we're collectively 26.5 years old. still older than his peers, but not nearly as foreign to them.
to know what to say.
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