i bought some socks at the bay yesterday with the remainder of a gift card. they're called "all day socks", i hope they live up to their name. the weird thing about that purchase is that there was still 37 cents left on the card and the sales lady insisted that i keep it. the frickin bay wouldn't give me 37 cents. the lady said "think of it this way, your next purchase will be 37 cents off" :S
brendan, beckie and i were talking about friendships. it seems in our culture friendship is understood to be something that you're in or you're out. like a hula hoop - either you're all in or all out, or sometimes one foot is in and the other is out, sometimes it's twirling around on one limb (i think this analogy is breaking down...)
as the three of us talked we recognized that friendships are not the same as romantic relationships where there's an official committment and usually a clear beginning and end. which is good, we're glad they're different. friend break-ups are awkward and painful, and we concluded that they're bizarre because they resemble a committed relationship rather than plutonic kinship. friendships are more free-flowing. i think on the whole we need to be ok with the fact that sometimes our friendship connections are strong, and sometimes they're loose. sometimes our friendships fade away for no apparent reason other than the passing of time. beckie said "why can't we just be ok with the fact that friendships fade" (or something to that effect), and i think that's an excellent point. i work hard at my friendships, but perhaps i need to learn to be more relaxed about them. to learn that like the wind they will be strong and gusty at times, and other times they'll be mild and calm. sometimes the wind will blow us in different directions, it's not a bad thing, it doesn't mean we are now sworn enemies. it just means that we're growing and changing in new ways and don't necessarily cross paths anymore.
we often get let down by changes in friendship. when our pals lives change, or they move away, or we move away. i think it's the disappointment that hurts the most. i'm going to change my expectations, have a more realistic approach to my connections. not that i've been hurt lately, but i fear hurting others. it's liberating to know that friends are a wonderful optional addition, not an obligation that requires - nay, demands - something from me.
i'm reading gone with the wind right now. it's super funny. i don't think it's meant to be, but it's so backwards i can't help but be amused by it.
i needs a cuppa tea.
brendan, beckie and i were talking about friendships. it seems in our culture friendship is understood to be something that you're in or you're out. like a hula hoop - either you're all in or all out, or sometimes one foot is in and the other is out, sometimes it's twirling around on one limb (i think this analogy is breaking down...)
as the three of us talked we recognized that friendships are not the same as romantic relationships where there's an official committment and usually a clear beginning and end. which is good, we're glad they're different. friend break-ups are awkward and painful, and we concluded that they're bizarre because they resemble a committed relationship rather than plutonic kinship. friendships are more free-flowing. i think on the whole we need to be ok with the fact that sometimes our friendship connections are strong, and sometimes they're loose. sometimes our friendships fade away for no apparent reason other than the passing of time. beckie said "why can't we just be ok with the fact that friendships fade" (or something to that effect), and i think that's an excellent point. i work hard at my friendships, but perhaps i need to learn to be more relaxed about them. to learn that like the wind they will be strong and gusty at times, and other times they'll be mild and calm. sometimes the wind will blow us in different directions, it's not a bad thing, it doesn't mean we are now sworn enemies. it just means that we're growing and changing in new ways and don't necessarily cross paths anymore.
we often get let down by changes in friendship. when our pals lives change, or they move away, or we move away. i think it's the disappointment that hurts the most. i'm going to change my expectations, have a more realistic approach to my connections. not that i've been hurt lately, but i fear hurting others. it's liberating to know that friends are a wonderful optional addition, not an obligation that requires - nay, demands - something from me.
i'm reading gone with the wind right now. it's super funny. i don't think it's meant to be, but it's so backwards i can't help but be amused by it.
i needs a cuppa tea.
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