helmo

my friend helen died.

i found out this afternoon on facebook, when someone i don't know wrote on her wall and included 'RIP' in the message. my mind was reeling when i saw that her profile had switched to a 'remembering' page.

she was so loving and warm. i was always so touched by how she included and reached out to me, even when she didn't have to. she was so smart, and often times far to smart for me to follow everything she was saying. i have so much respect for her marriage to terrence. they have been together for so long, yet each had a strong sense of personal identity. they were different, and complementary. like different flavours in cooking. my heart breaks for him. i can't imagine his life without her.

i'm glad that brendan got to meet them. we had dinner together a year ago last summer (august 2015).

i'm tempted to say things like "life is so short" and "life is so precious" or "tell your loved ones you love them". but it all feels trite. so instead, i'm going to go brush my teeth, and get into bed with my warm body who i'm grateful for every day. be thankful and relish all the good stuff.