a lot of thoughts have sojourned thru my mind today. and of these thoughts i will try to select only a few to share with you for sake of time.
we talked a little at living room tonight about one-sided friendships. a number of people mentioned friends of theirs who never ask how their doing, and simply talk about their own problems. whenever i hear people say that, i immediately sting. i'm horribly afraid that i am one of those people. recently i spend an evening with someone who didn't ask a single thing about me, but spent the evening responding to my questions about her. i was left feeling like that was the most bizarre conversation ever, and i worried that i'm guilty of doing that. if i am, please forgive me. i do genuinely care about all my friends, i'm sorry if i dominate conversations with my own problems. i think sometimes i take forgranted that everyone else will volunteer their stories as i do, so perhaps i don't ask often enough. please forgive me if you find i talk to much and monopolize conversations.
over sunday lunch i started to realize how much like my mom i am. joy is very like her in character and tasks, where i'm more like her emotionally and relationally. it was kind of exciting for me to piece that together. i also realized that my mom was the unconventional one in her family, but that got squashed out of her. so although she's pretty conventional now, she gives me a lot of liberties because she understands that part of me.
i drove past my old house on pine street today. they've installed new equipment in the park next door. seeing that made me think of the time i spoted a guy jerking off in the playground and i yelled at him thru our window and he ran away looking completely mortified.
and bless you,
and i deeply do.
5 comments:
Oh, that poor guy - and poor you for having to witness it! For pete's sake, could he not have found a more private place than a totally open, treeless park?!
Perhaps because I'm also pretty forth-coming with stories about myself, I have never found you to dominate the conversation, Les. I like the talks we have and feel like there's a good balance to them. It's never felt one-sided to me. You are very open and I feel like when you talk about yourself it is to share yourself with others, not to dump on them. There's a difference, although I don't know that I could articulate what makes it.
ya the new jungle gym thing is just plain weird. and so was the day of the jerkoff in the park.
haha rach. it's hilarious that you're sympathizing for him! or is that empathy?? :p don't feel too badly for him, it was NOON on a SATURDAY. like WHO DOES THAT?!?! he looked about 25 and relatively normal, but apparently not :p
thanks for assuring me that i don't dominate conversations. don't worry, i didn't think you were talking about me, but it got me reflecting about that, as i've done several times.
oh melinda, you are hilarious. that jungle gym is way cooler than what they used to have. you just don't like change. although, where will our "gay-guy in the park", or "drunk prostitute" go to find some swings?? oh, and we can't forget "that kid i hate".
NOON! I was picturing the cover of night, at least!
Knowing it was noon only makes it funnier for me to picture you yelling at him through the window. i'm still chuckling about that today!!!
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