you know... despite this current, progressive age, I still find that people are uncomfortable with an informed and assertive woman.
I am a capable woman, and I have very little patience for incompetence. I'm not going to put up with people farting around, especially when it wastes my time. I take others seriously, and I expect them to take me seriously in return.
I don't really know why people don't know how to interact with me. when brendan and I are at a store, ordering home improvement stuff, they still assume that he's the one to address, when I'm the one who has dreamt up the idea and worked out all the details. there's usually a lot of mansplaining going on, until they realize I'm informed, and after that they try to keep their distance. they still assistance me and are pleasant about it, but they obviously want to get the interaction over with.
maybe I'm unintentionally rude and don't realize it. brendan tells me that some people are uncomfortable with untraditional women. maybe that's part of it, but if it is, I think it's time they do a little adapting.
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there is this thing, proven in a study where they had folks read case studies about two people, identical in every respect except gender (literally, the texts were identical, featuring either Brendan or Brenda, for example), and the men in the the cases were described as direct where the women were labelled bossy.
all to say, you're probably being clear and knowledgeable, and it's being interpreted as something more negative. i have issues with the same thing. usually it's ok when i'm on my own. if i'm on my own and i get mansplained to, i get a bit blousy (that's shirty, for a girl ;) and then I go find someone else.
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