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b and i are starting pre-marital counselling next week with a woman in k-town named devona. she comes highly recommended by many different people, and brendan has met with her during a group event with the house famous. we feel pretty good about this choice. we had a lot of options - plenty of qualified people to choose from, but we ended up deciding on devona because she seemed like the right fit here and now. she does a lot with the myers-briggs personality stuff, which i'm glad about. i wasn't sure what we'd get out of pre-marital counselling because we've already jointly gone thru a book called "10 conversations you must have before getting married". when we read that book we touched on all the major topics, and then some, so i wasn't sure how a counselling session would expand on that. it's my understanding that part of counselling before marriage was to help investigate things like money, sex, kids, family, careers, etc, all of which we've already talked about in depth. so anyways, it sounds like devona will help us figure out how our personalities will relate together in a marriage, how to resolve conflict, how to be sensitive to each other's needs, etc. i'm glad about that, i'm sure that kind of input will go a long long way. before handing over my myers-briggs profile, i wanted to do an online quiz one more time. i feel that i've come to a deeper understanding of myself since dating brendan, because he's confirmed or validated certain traits and behaviours that i used to just ignore or falsely identify. i thought i'd get more accurate results now than i would've before. i've realized there's a difference between what i want to do and what i actually do - and the key to such a survey is actually answering based on your instincts as opposed to behaviours. so anyways, i did the quiz and came out as an ISFP, and having read the description i feel it's a bang-on description of myself. it's kind of exciting! i feel like i understand myself so much better. why my cubicle rubs me the wrong way, why i'm shy, why i enjoy working with my hands, why i'm fairly unique. i read brendan's too, it was also hilariously accurate, i think it gives me a better understanding of how he works. here's mine.

i'd have to say that planning a wedding is a good team sport. we have to be stragetic, we have to play on our strengths, we have to be mindful of the other players. it's a challenge, but i think it's really quite a good team-building exercise. in a way it's a shame that each couple only gets to do their wedding once because we've already learned a lot about the process and we've only been engaged 19 days! it feels way longer.

day in day out,
stay in stay out,
you'll see, you'll be free.