so this evening brendan and i started the planning of our wedding. since we're less than 3 months away from the big day i thought it would be wise to get organized, figure out what needs to be done and when.
since this whole thing is new to us, i googled "wedding checklist" and found a comprehensive list starting at 12 months prior to the wedding. considering we're on a fast-track schedule we were quite behind. however, our wedding is going to be very casual and non-traditional, so together we sat deleting all the crap from the to-do list and whittled it down to 1 page from 3. we also came up with a guest list of 117 people, which doesn't include the 20 names or so we might receive from our moms. it's amazing how quickly the numbers can go up, but i've always known i'd have around that many, that tends to happen when a person is a church-goer. i'm sure the numbers will go down just as quickly because not everyone will attend. on the to-do list, the weirdest item was "purchase wedding gifts for parents", i just think it's weird to give our parents gifts for our wedding. it's a funny world we live in.
i was telling brendan that i'm still kind of in shock that i'm getting married. he told me "well... you were single a long time". has anyone else ever felt this way before? because i've never heard anyone talk about it. sometimes i look at brendan and i think "i'm marrying that guy", like, that's a lot to take in! out of all the men i've ever known, out of all the guys i've ever had crushes on, this is the guy i'm going to marry and spend my life with. that's a pretty big frickin' deal! i think i made a great choice of life partner. it's just a lot to take in. i'm really thankful. he's my best friend!
i'm going to try to keep wedding talk to a minimum on pspd, but it's bound to come up. let's all be thankful that we only have to endure this for the next 12 weeks. well... i say endure, but i do hope that it will be a fun and positive experience, i just don't want to be obsessive about it. and i think if i'm on the ball it won't consume me. i'm crossing my fingers!
i came to this strange world,
hoping i could learn a bit about how to give and take.
4 comments:
oh Lesley babble away about wedding talk I say! There are so many people thrilled for you and Brendan. I was single for a loooooooong time before I met Brian...it's great to have met someone but disorienting a little too.
I think it's pretty normal to feel in shock about getting married. Unless, maybe, you've been dating for years on end.
Planning a wedding in three months is perfectly do-able. I don't regret doing it AT ALL. It prevents you from obsessing (and fighting) about all the little details. Plus, you don't have to wait and wait and wait for the day to come.
I still look at Hugh sometimes and go "holy shit, I am married to him until one of us dies". It's not a negative or a positive, it just seems like the statement of that fact needs to be repeated at irregular intervals.
We're so stoked for you two :)
Is there anything particularly Australiany you'd like as a wedding gift?
Jo is not a good example here...clearly getting married (or maybe just moving to Australia!) has given her an awful potty mouth ;)
You might want to reconsider the whole getting hitched thing after all!! Haha sorry Jo, couldn't resist. but seriously Lesley, you only do it once. Live it up. You should ooze wedding until your big day. This is an incredibly special time in your life and you will never be back here again. TREASURE every moment of your time in this quasi-alone space. In this time of courtship. You can only experience it once and you will remember it fondly forever. I loved how in the days leading up to our wedding Paul and I drew closer and closer in our mutual excitement. To become a family is such a momentous thing. I'm so thrilled for you and Brendan!! One thing to remember: use your friends. They will all want to help with your special day and you should take full advantage of that. Love ya.
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